We’ve all read the fairy-tales and watched the rom-coms. Surely we can agree the recurring theme is the idea of the ONE, the better half to make us whole, the ideal soul-mate and companion to share mutual compassion and love and understanding on the journey of life. Whether you put it down to chance, parallel universes, statistics, or fate, logically it makes sense that there is a person out there to be THE ONE.

How to recognize the one?

Most people say that you will just feel it. When you meet someone who is on the same wavelength as you, it should come naturally. That said, there a few key indicators that can help you decide if he or she is THE ONE: you hardly fight, you help each other grow, you don’t stand in each other’s way, you can be comfortable with each other, you can let your guard down, and you share the same fundamental values.

How do I find the one?

This is tricky. There is no clear path or method of finding your soul mate but there are a few things you can do to better your chances. As counterproductive as it may sound, the first step is to stop looking outside of yourself and look within. Realize your priorities, first and foremost. Get to know, love and accept yourself for who you really are. Once you are comfortable and confident with your own self, decide what it is you want in a life partner. Rest assured they’re out there, and you’re going to end up together because it’s inevitable and stop fretting about the search.

The premise is actually quite simple. Picture this; you have a screw and need bolt something into place, you don’t have a nut. You go to the hardware store and buy a nut, but you can’t just buy any nut, you must buy the one that fits, and how do you know? Well easy, you check grade, markings, material, and size of the screw; it all matters. Once you have this information, you can go about finding the nut that fits.